To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed, by Alix Kates Shulman, is a beautiful, poignant love story spanning several decades. This memoir will touch your heart, and will touch home for you if you are or have been a caregiver for your spouse.
Here is an introductory review on Amazon.com’s website from School Library Journal:
“In her third memoir (after Drinking the Rain), Shulman details the transformative effects of her husband’s traumatic brain injury at the age of 75. Prior to Scott’s fall from a loft bed, their relationship had been one of two deeply committed yet autonomous souls. Steadfast in her opposition to a nursing home, the author decided to tend to her husband herself. A genuinely moving story, especially of interest to those who’ve experienced or known those who’ve suffered from traumatic brain injury or who have devoted their lives to caring for another.”—Elizabeth Brinkley, Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc.
Read also a related and moving article by author Alix Kates Shulman in The New York Times» “Caring for an Ill Spouse, and for Other Caregivers”. Here Ms. Shulman takes us inside her caregivers’ support group, and describes with feeling the lifeline that support groups provide for caregivers caring for a family member with Alzheimer’s.
Ms. Shulman’s book is available for purchase from Amazon.com: To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed